Our Birth Story

Our Birth Story,

Our Birth Story began the night of January 28th 2018, two days before my due date. It started with some light cramping that came every few hours than as time went on the contractions become a little closer through out the night but not close enough to rush to the hospital -I told myself to stick it out as long as I could at home before I decided to rush to the hospital, I also had an appointment in the morning on the 29th with my OBGYN.

 Once 5 am rolled around the day before my due date my contractions were getting closer and more intense, I downloaded a contraction timer to help me keep track but they were still kind of all over the place. A few hours went by I got up out of bed to get ready for the day and to get ready to leave for my appointment with the OBGYN at 10 am, when I arrived at my appointment my doctor checked me for dilation but I was only at 3 cm she had then sent me to another room to monitor my contractions on a machine for about an hour she came back and said that she was sending me to the hospital because my contractions were 3 minuets apart. 

I left the OBGYN, got into my car and drove home to tell my Boyfriend to get our things ready because we were going to the hospital. Inside I was feeling excited thinking I was going to meet my baby that I have been growing inside of me and have been talking to for the past 9 months, after getting everything ready we headed to the hospital and checked into our room, the nurse gave me an exercise ball to bounce on to help dilation after 30 minuets of that I decided to walk around the Labor and Delivery a few times and back to the room to bounce on the exercise ball again. Bouncing  on an exercise ball when your contracting is one of the most uncomfortable things ever and it makes you want to cry. I had to stop after awhile and lay back down, the nurse came back in and looked at my chart to see how close my contractions were she said that they were not as close as they were when I first had came in she said she would  have to call the on call doctor to see if I should stay or go home.

They ended up sending me home, we arrived at home and just did our regular everyday things, later that night I ate a bowl of cereal because I was just super hungry like always, then went to bed to try and get some rest. 5 am rolled around and I had to go potty, that was that went back to bed then an hour later 6 am January 30th I felt a trickle of warm liquid, I just knew my water broke so I rolled off the bed very gently so I wouldn’t ruin our new bed we just bought and told my Boyfriend that we needed to go to the hospital. I changed my clothes grabbed my hospital bag and out the door we went, we arrived at the hospital around 6:45 am and got our room fairly quickly. I changed into the hospital gown and laid in the bed, the nurse was explaining to me that she had to check to see if my water did actually break and of course I knew what I was talking about, in my head I was like “I am not going home, I am here to have this baby!” As the morning progresses around 9 am they checked for dilation and there was not any change, I couldn’t take the pain anymore I gave in and asked for pain medicine. I got hooked up to an IV, the nurse said that the medicine will only take the edge off and last about for an hour, “Yeah Right!” It was more like 30 minuets. 

I tried to go as long as I could without getting the epidural because I really wanted to try to have my baby naturally but after they had checked me again I was only at 4 cm not progressing at all, I gave in and got the epidural by 12 pm. I did not like the epidural it made me very nauseous #OMG, I was so sick that when the nurses had to flip me from side to side I was throwing up every single time and not only that when they gave me the epidural they didn’t put a catheter in me after and I ended up peeing on the floor, I was so embarrassed but it was funny. I will say this I had the best nurses while I was in the hospital, they were the sweetest. Fast Forwarding to 7 pm the on call doctor shows up does a check for dilation and I am only at 5 cm, at this point I feel like my body is failing me and I’m failing myself, the doctor says if you do not progress with in the hour we will have to do a C-section. I was feeling upset but was a 100% ready for my baby to be in my arms, they then gave my Boyfriend his scrubs to put on and before I knew it an hour had already passed by but they didn’t really come to get me until 8:15 pm. They wheeled me back prepped me and gave me another epidural so now I am super sick at this point even as they are cutting me open I am throwing up, they tried to make me smell something to make the nausea go away but it made it even worse. 

After a bunch of pulling and tugging my Baby Girl is out I hear crying but I can’t see her, my boyfriend then says “she’s here, she’s here” I am out of it but I am still very excited I said to my Boyfriend “she looks just like you” she was such a beautiful baby a head full of hair just as I imagined she would have. So my baby girl is finally here!! 8 lbs 10 oz 21 inches long. The doctor starts to stitch me back up and I start to feel this horrible pain in my shoulders that didn’t go away for like a month that was one of the worst parts including the epidural making me sick through out my whole labor experience. The next morning January 31st I got to get  out of bed I was walking like a baby deer, and got to take a shower before my visitors arrived which was nice and refreshing. We spent 3 days in the hospital and it was a pretty nice stay but we were so relieved to be going home on February 2nd. Recovery after my c-section was quicker than I expected I could fully move around without being in pain by 2 weeks but I would say I didn’t fully recover until a month after. 7 months of postpartum my hormones are still out of balance and I am wondering when they will be normal again. 

I am happy that I got to share Our Birth Story with all of you! I would love to hear all of your stories as well.

You can post your story on my Facebook Page xoxo.moma or you can send me an e-mail at lala.luv18@gmail.com and will post your story for you. 

Let Me Introduce Myself

Let Me Introduce

 Myself,

Hey there! My name is Jamie, I am recently new blogger and I am a New Mother to a beautiful baby girl named Nyla Jade.

On My blog you will find stories of my experiences in motherhood and everyday living, I am still working on the everyday living part but stay tuned. I am going to be working on my blog full time to share all my tips and tricks to make mama life a little easier, I will be sharing my opinions and will be offering my support to any mama who needs it. As I mentioned above I am a new mommy to my beautiful baby girl Nyla Jade who is growing so quickly. 

My Daughter is my main inspiration to write this blog, she has taught me so many things in such a short amount of time. Everything you hoped motherhood would be except ten times better.

She Is Learning So Quickly

• Sitting Up
• Talking "Mama, Dada, Baba"
• Learning to crawl, but more like scooting 
• Already trying to stand up 

My Passion For Writing 

I started writing way back in 2005 mostly short stories and poetry I wrote constantly. It was a great way to express myself in my own true way, I even joined a writing class in High School which I enjoyed very much. Blogging is a whole new adventure and I am totally excited to see what this journey has in store for me.

Random Tid Bits 

A few random tid bits of information about me: I am from Omaha, NE. I drink excessive amounts of Water and the occasional Green Tea, I also like a glass or ten of Wine my mane preference is Sweet White Wine but I will drink any if  I am being truthfully honest. I also like to do #DIY projects, love to be crafty if I can find the time . I am so glad you can be here with me and be apart of my life. 

Thank You For Taking The Time To Read!

-xoxo.moma

I am open to working with Brands if we are a perfect fit.

I am easy to reach!! E-mail me at 

lala.luv18@gmail.com.

#SAHM

Being a Stay At Home Mama #SAHM is one of the hardest and one of the most rewarding jobs of them all. Being able to watch your baby grow, learn and play each and everyday is amazing, with that being said it definitely can be a learning experience not just for baby but you aswell. Your first lesson is really finding more about who you are as a mother especially if your a First Time Mom # FTM, learning about the mother you are, the mother you want to be, and the mother you hope you won’t become. Your second lesson is finding out how much patience you have, after a long day of baby cries sometimes it might feel like you have lost your #Sanity. You start to feel bad for feeling the way you do because as a parent you just want to understand your baby if you try hard enough you will eventually, learning little cues for certain things.

Your third lesson is learning that your not the same person you once were, you’re not just #JaneSmith anymore you are a milk making, diaper changing, snot nose wiping mother. You almost forget your prior identity, what are my hobbies again, what was my best friends name, my favorite place to go dancing? I think we can all agree life changes tremendously and you probably didn’t realize how much it was going to change or how differently your thoughts and decisions would be, you don’t just have yourself to think about you have this little person who depends on you, for some that can be a scary thing especially if your not good with #Change.The best part about being a #SAHM is seeing them grow and not realizing where time went because you are having so much fun teaching your baby and hearing them laugh at the silly faces or sounds that you make.

The exciting milestones, when they start rolling over, when they sit up all by themselves, their first tooth and all the others that follow. Those are memories you will want to #Cherish for the rest of your life! Being a #SAHM also includes a long list of chores so it’s not all fun in games and watching our favorite #soaps, your laundry the hubby's laundry and babies laundry. That’s 3 loads of laundry already that’s not including towels and bedding, best way to figure that in is to pick one day a week to tackle that mess that means folding and hanging too. Next chore on the list is cooking and the dishes that come with it, what has worked for me is to clean while you cook less dishes to wash when dinner is over and this is daily #IDontWannaDoIt. That is just some of the daily chores that you will be consuming your day with.

 Finding time for yourself can become almost a non existent thing, do I nap while baby naps and take advantage of the well deserved sleep or do I stay up and catch up on my favorite series because let’s face it your child is the one who decides when they’re tired so you probably have a short window of time to do anything you really want to do or not do. Being a #SAHM is not for everyone and some don’t understand your decision to stay home with your baby and maybe you won’t be a #SAHM forever but take this time to bond, teach, love and cherish these moments because they won’t be here forever.

I may have forgotten who I used to be and I may not know who I'm going to end up being but I do have thing to say, I accept this challenge to learn be to open and explore the wonders of motherhood. We are embarking on a new journey in our lives and all the trials and tribulations that come with it. I didn't choose the Stay At Home Life, The Stay At Home Life chose me #MomsAreAmazing.

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Not That Mama...

Do you ever feel doubtful about your mama abilities, always wondering if you're doing this or that "the right way"? Does it seem like you're under a microscope sensing all the negative looks and comments from our fellow mama friends even from mama's we haven't even met #momgroups. As if those other mama's seem to have it all together when in reality we are all losing our shit from time to time, as you sit back and think of all the things you could have done to make the day go by smoother you just beat yourself up for not being like "mama society standards" #thatsacrockofshit.

 As mama’s we all seem to be absorbed by those standards, I am also guilty of punishing myself for not being or feeling like that number 1 mom that gets it all right. It is okay to be that silly mama, it is okay to be that mad mama, it is okay to be that “I’ll do it later mama and it is okay to not be the #perfect mama. Listen we all have been guilty of judging other mama’s maybe because they don’t do something the same way as you, or maybe your super cautious and you just can’t stand to watch another parent who gives no fucks. You may feel like you need to preach on the subject but at the end of the day we could use our own advice.

If we could be supportive to other mama’s instead of #momshaming raising our families would be like the pressure from the weight of the world was lifted from our shoulders. If you know what that feels like then you definitely can relate, advocate for other mama’s who do not have a voice don’t let them feel the negativity from "mama society standards" who are let’s face it #wingingit just like the rest of us. We are all looking for those #momhacks, “don’t be a stingy bitch” #dish but remember it’s not always what you say, it is how you say it.

Many mama’s have been good to me and they always like to share advice and some of the best advice were from people that were the closest to me and some advice you have to take with a grain of salt, use the advice that is relevant to your lifestyle. When I became a mother I honestly thought I could do this I can handle all points and aspects of motherhood I mean I have 7 sisters and 1 brother, I have many family members with babies, I have done childcare and I took child development classes. When it is your own child the tables turn and you start all over from scratch as if you have forgotten all of your motherly abilities you thought life was preparing you for #callyourmom.

All we can really do is take one day at a time and try to be the best mom we can be, that doesn't mean finishing all your mama tasks in one day or always making your kids happy by giving them every little thing they want and desire. Being a good mom is being there when most needed, to kiss the boo boo's when they scrape their knee, to teach them right from wrong and to teach them to be independent human beings. We got this mama! Here's to being the mom we hope to be and sometimes failing but never giving up when times get rough #whereisthewine.

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