Not That Mama...

Do you ever feel doubtful about your mama abilities, always wondering if you're doing this or that "the right way"? Does it seem like you're under a microscope sensing all the negative looks and comments from our fellow mama friends even from mama's we haven't even met #momgroups. As if those other mama's seem to have it all together when in reality we are all losing our shit from time to time, as you sit back and think of all the things you could have done to make the day go by smoother you just beat yourself up for not being like "mama society standards" #thatsacrockofshit.

 As mama’s we all seem to be absorbed by those standards, I am also guilty of punishing myself for not being or feeling like that number 1 mom that gets it all right. It is okay to be that silly mama, it is okay to be that mad mama, it is okay to be that “I’ll do it later mama and it is okay to not be the #perfect mama. Listen we all have been guilty of judging other mama’s maybe because they don’t do something the same way as you, or maybe your super cautious and you just can’t stand to watch another parent who gives no fucks. You may feel like you need to preach on the subject but at the end of the day we could use our own advice.

If we could be supportive to other mama’s instead of #momshaming raising our families would be like the pressure from the weight of the world was lifted from our shoulders. If you know what that feels like then you definitely can relate, advocate for other mama’s who do not have a voice don’t let them feel the negativity from "mama society standards" who are let’s face it #wingingit just like the rest of us. We are all looking for those #momhacks, “don’t be a stingy bitch” #dish but remember it’s not always what you say, it is how you say it.

Many mama’s have been good to me and they always like to share advice and some of the best advice were from people that were the closest to me and some advice you have to take with a grain of salt, use the advice that is relevant to your lifestyle. When I became a mother I honestly thought I could do this I can handle all points and aspects of motherhood I mean I have 7 sisters and 1 brother, I have many family members with babies, I have done childcare and I took child development classes. When it is your own child the tables turn and you start all over from scratch as if you have forgotten all of your motherly abilities you thought life was preparing you for #callyourmom.

All we can really do is take one day at a time and try to be the best mom we can be, that doesn't mean finishing all your mama tasks in one day or always making your kids happy by giving them every little thing they want and desire. Being a good mom is being there when most needed, to kiss the boo boo's when they scrape their knee, to teach them right from wrong and to teach them to be independent human beings. We got this mama! Here's to being the mom we hope to be and sometimes failing but never giving up when times get rough #whereisthewine.

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